do you resist fluidity or fly with it?

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It still surprises me, the swings. Triggers to needing to be long haired and pretty, to relax into social androgyne, to slide to guy mode.

It doesn't like being forced one way or another. It wants what it wants.

You go with it, or resist to maintain a static position...an expected appearance, a consistent ...experience...?

[Edge]

I go with it. I try to anyway. I get a bit stuck because I'm afraid of other people making false assumptions about me. Also, female me has the same presentation as male me anyway.

[Ativan Prescribed]

Go with what is right for the situation, for your surroundings.
Anything else feels forced, like wanting to change your surroundings to fit your self.
That's the thing about being fluid, you can move through life in ways that satisfies your involvement with your surroundings.
There are times where it becomes necessary to be contrary to your situation, but in general, go with the flow.
It's not relying on negative triggers, it's just the opposite. It's keeping those negative triggers to a minimum.
There are positive triggers as well, so being in the moment takes those and you use them, it's a part of being mindful.
It allows you to be who you are, but still stay connected in ways that keep conflict to a minimum.
*But just the same, I am sometimes reminded that, when in doubt, knock them out.. 

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Dysphoria bit hard this morning in Aa triggered by seeing a lady dressed the way I want to right now. Andro was correct at the time, my gender has been all over the place this morning.

It seems that if I am required to repress at any level, there is kickback, yet social comfort is also key.

My presentation flexes a lot...

But yes I do agree. I'll need my hair on soon to destress though.

Off gardening now...

[Ayla]

I think that I am improving. What seems like a big deal for me is probably of little consequence to most folk. However even the slightest movement, slightest fluidity is rewarding, empowering and feels authentic. It encourages me and leads to more expression and to more fluidity. All good.

Safe travels

Aisla

[Leena]

May 16, 2015 20:14:08 GMT 8 Trinity said:

It still surprises me, the swings. Triggers to needing to be long haired and pretty, to relax into social androgyne, to slide to guy mode.

It doesn't like being forced one way or another. It wants what it wants.

You go with it, or resist to maintain a static position...an expected appearance, a consistent ...experience...?

It surprises me quite a bit less, now that I've allowed myself to partially go with it for a few years now. I seem to gravitate towards an androgynous male appearance though, and it somewhat is perhaps becoming a consistent, expected appearance, but I do subtle things with color sometimes, as well as underdress to match how I'm feeling. It depends on the situation too, I am much more fluid when I'm about to hit the mall or the nightclub then when I'm about to go to work or travel to some place where people are ultra-conservative.  

[Sisyphus]

When I'm not restricted it flows so naturally I don't even think about it. It has only been the very difficult life circumstances that have been in play for a few years now that I feel I absolutely must consciously resit the fluidity.