Post by Taka on Jun 23, 2015 20:49:08 GMT 8
when it comes to dating... i wouldn't want to apply any sort of *phobic, or racist, or any other derogatory that can be used about personal preference.
it's as absurd as hating people because they happen to like dog meat.
or looking down on people who don't like liquorice.
when it comes to choosing a partner, people are entitled to choose on their own premises. no matter how absurd they may seem to others.
as long as they aren't breaking any laws ofc.
there are few things i loathe more than how some men will try to tell a woman that she should love him back simply because he loves her that much.
saying that a person who likes women (unspecified) also has to like (post op) trans women, or women of a particular racial, ethnic, cultural or other background, sounds equally horrible to me.
it would be completely different if you asked how a cis woman would react if a woman she's been on a few dates with, suddenly comes out as trans.
is it transphobic of her to answer "sorry, i can't go out with you"?
even if the sole reason is that the other woman is trans, does that mean the first woman is transphobic?
i can't easily be certain about that, because cis women and taught shame from a very young age. pretty much everything that is enjoyable is shameful, most of what isn't is shameful too.
what the woman truly fears may not be the other woman's trans status at all. it may be the rest of society, loss of love from her family, public shame, loss of friends (even if they aren't really all that good), and a whole lot of other things that make it impossible for her to easily give in to the feeling of love towards another person.
some may think that because a woman is gay, she'll be more open minded. that's not necessarily true at all.
some may think that she's stronger and more able to make independent choices. that's also just an assumption.
just think about it. what if a woman is already shunned by most of her family and all of society, but has at least her gay and ally friends. wouldn't she be even more terrified of being scorned by them, even if this is a baseless fear?
it's as absurd as hating people because they happen to like dog meat.
or looking down on people who don't like liquorice.
when it comes to choosing a partner, people are entitled to choose on their own premises. no matter how absurd they may seem to others.
as long as they aren't breaking any laws ofc.
there are few things i loathe more than how some men will try to tell a woman that she should love him back simply because he loves her that much.
saying that a person who likes women (unspecified) also has to like (post op) trans women, or women of a particular racial, ethnic, cultural or other background, sounds equally horrible to me.
it would be completely different if you asked how a cis woman would react if a woman she's been on a few dates with, suddenly comes out as trans.
is it transphobic of her to answer "sorry, i can't go out with you"?
even if the sole reason is that the other woman is trans, does that mean the first woman is transphobic?
i can't easily be certain about that, because cis women and taught shame from a very young age. pretty much everything that is enjoyable is shameful, most of what isn't is shameful too.
what the woman truly fears may not be the other woman's trans status at all. it may be the rest of society, loss of love from her family, public shame, loss of friends (even if they aren't really all that good), and a whole lot of other things that make it impossible for her to easily give in to the feeling of love towards another person.
some may think that because a woman is gay, she'll be more open minded. that's not necessarily true at all.
some may think that she's stronger and more able to make independent choices. that's also just an assumption.
just think about it. what if a woman is already shunned by most of her family and all of society, but has at least her gay and ally friends. wouldn't she be even more terrified of being scorned by them, even if this is a baseless fear?