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Post by Leena on Dec 11, 2017 2:50:56 GMT 8
I was pretty depressed for a long time, I think what really got me out of it was getting back into making music and my other hobbies. It's so easy to spend all day thinking about being trans and various other issues in my life, but spending a lot of time thinking about them doesn't really help anything. I'd rather just do the things I want to do in life, and I prefer not to think of them as distractions. Some of the best music and art was created by artists that were not exactly happy anyway....
Also, anything that gets me out of the house is good. I try to walk at least 10 miles a day. Playing Pokemon Go has been one thing that gives me a reason to leave the house every day, Generation 3 is out now, I've been out walking until my battery on my phone is dead the last few days. If I'm not walking around outside, I'll go to one or two of the local malls and walk around inside, and do window shopping, though I sometimes end up buying a lot of new clothes I can't really afford, and don't really have the space for. I also like to take drives to neighboring towns and explore what's there, even if it usually isn't that much different.
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Post by Trinity on Dec 11, 2017 11:23:42 GMT 8
I lost the on the street sh'e.
A lot changed, big time.
Football helps. Ps2, racing games.
Joyrides. Swimming.
Dance but its alone now.
I'm on permanent vacation. Retirements strange, in the back of your head you know it ends fatally.
I want to live it well.
I wont go back to work. I tried to vope till I broke, actually they canned me but i was being talked through every day by my very dear friend, and by Isla too, another I am close with.
But one of us has been watching over me for a long time, every day, for years. As I watch over them as well.
One of the biggest coping mechs is this forum.
Without the core people here, I would have died.
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Post by Von on Dec 12, 2017 4:26:35 GMT 8
I don't really cope, per se... I'd call mine "avoidance skills". As they just prolong the time in which I have to go without feeling horrible about the things I'm thinking about or feeling.
- Naps (Temporarily dead! Now, with an in-flight movie!) - Video games (Bonus points for engrossing storyline and characters) - Tabletop Roleplaying (ie Dungeons & Dragons, Pathfinder; Be someone else whose biggest problem can be solved with a sword or magic!) - Browsing tumblr (a carefully curated homepage ensures many things of interest and a laugh or two)
Ooh, I actually did think of ONE coping mechanism while I was writing. It has to do with intrusive or spiraling thought patterns. I first have to recognize it for what it is. Hard part. Then I visualize a STOP SIGN. Trace the edges in the air, if I must, and either mentally or verbally say STOP IT. This is not helping me. I then pick something else to think about at length, that I like. Often times I turn to game rules for D&D as it's complex enough to keep me distracted and break the cycle.
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Post by Yuki on Dec 12, 2017 10:27:28 GMT 8
I don't really cope, per se... I'd call mine "avoidance skills". As they just prolong the time in which I have to go without feeling horrible about the things I'm thinking about or feeling. - Naps (Temporarily dead! Now, with an in-flight movie!) - Video games (Bonus points for engrossing storyline and characters) - Tabletop Roleplaying (ie Dungeons & Dragons, Pathfinder; Be someone else whose biggest problem can be solved with a sword or magic!) - Browsing tumblr (a carefully curated homepage ensures many things of interest and a laugh or two) Ooh, I actually did think of ONE coping mechanism while I was writing. It has to do with intrusive or spiraling thought patterns. I first have to recognize it for what it is. Hard part. Then I visualize a STOP SIGN. Trace the edges in the air, if I must, and either mentally or verbally say STOP IT. This is not helping me. I then pick something else to think about at length, that I like. Often times I turn to game rules for D&D as it's complex enough to keep me distracted and break the cycle. I have horrible intrusive thoughts. Daily. Like. "Oh, you're cutting up a potato? I wonder what would happen if, instead, YOU STABBED YOUR MOM" Some are even more gruesome than that. I know it's a common symptom of anxiety problems but holy shit why do they have to be so awful. I'm going to try that stop sign thing next time I have one. That sounds like a good idea. My coping mechanisms are... -Trying to make sure I give myself breaks. Especially if I'm feeling overwhelmed. -Spreading out chores. Like, today was JUST laundry day. Tomorrow will be something else. -A nice tea! (When I remember) -Music. -Sleep. -Anything creative. Art, or whatever. -Taking care of the animals. Like, brushing Odin's teeth only takes a minute, but it makes me feel like I'm being useful. So then I feel like I accomplished something for the day and I feel better.
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Post by loveliving on Dec 12, 2017 11:38:43 GMT 8
Playing video games Cross stitch Reading Exercise Talk with my wife Church
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Post by EchelonHunt on Dec 12, 2017 12:16:11 GMT 8
My usual coping methods aren't working anymore so like Valerie, I have to find new ones.
My depression has taken a turn for the worst after my Japan trip. 10 days wasn't enough. I want to go back to Japan as soon as possible and live there, if possible, study and work there too.
Then theres the matter of my bottom dysphoria which is increasing in intensity and causing my suicidal thoughts to kick in. I'm picking up my Advanced Diploma of Graphic Design certificate today but I know the pool for jobs in Perth is pathetically small compared to other larger cities like Melbourne and Sydney. Will I be able to save up the money quick enough to get the surgery done within the next 2-3 years with Dr Goossen in Brisbane? Or should I just spend this year saving and go to UK with Ancestry Visa and do it through the NHS? Either way, I need to make a decision but the former (going with Dr Goosen) means I need to save up over 100k quick smart and that is unrealistic. UK seems like more realistic option, maybe I could look at a sponsor, someone who will employ me and then I fly over and work for them.
Combine all that with my issues with struggling to control my overeating and poor body image, it's a recipe for disaster.
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