The dating gamble

[Trinity]

Ummm...is that good dear?

[Kira]

Dec 25, 2015 7:17:48 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Ummm...is that good dear?

no, no it is not. It's rejection of the bluntest kind.

[Trinity]

Dec 25, 2015 7:29:54 GMT 8 Kira said:

Dec 25, 2015 7:17:48 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Ummm...is that good dear?

no, no it is not. It's rejection of the bluntest kind.

Crap.  I didnt understand ghost.

[Trinity]

You ok hon?

You've been through a lot...

[Kira]

We all have, I will be fine. Just feeling low. I will come through it.

[Trinity]

Yeah we have. Big time.

Love ya girl.

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Dec 25, 2015 6:55:00 GMT 8 Kira said:

He says fine with it on the date. Tried it on sexually, really wanted it, I have to admit, it's been a while, I played a bit. Then today he ghosted me. Pretty average. Straight from the girlfriend box to the discrete fun box.

What a complete idiot/coward. You deserve so much better, Kira. 

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Dec 25, 2015 7:52:06 GMT 8 Kira said:

We all have, I will be fine. Just feeling low. I will come through it.

Unfortunately this is all too common. Somehow they are more curious if you are post op which I'm not. But some guys can be real dicks. No pun intended. I have known guys that did the same thing to women. Cis women even. Hit it, get it and gone. They are dawgs. Just because we are transwomen don't make us any different than women period. I think most guys want to see what a vagina look like all across the board. Post op or not with an "outie". With me being non op it is bi, some with curiosity, some to see how it feels to have a woman with a little more and some that are bi curious and feel less guilt and some that genuinely do care or don't care and will see me as a woman and treat me accordingly. But with all my BS talk and wild child BS, never the first date or the second and then maybe not even then. But I'm totally honest from the get go. How can I not be? Run their hand up my skirt and feel something they aren't expecting then that is asking for trouble. But you are post op though so...

Don't get discouraged. You used to have a pic and you are beautiful and a real man would cherish you. A Dawg wants only one thing and that is how good you can make them feel. Just chalk it up to experience and most definitely if they aren't willing to work in the way of romance, wining and dining over a period of time then forget about them. Even non op, I can please myself but they want someone to please them and if I won't do it for them then they will move on and they never were worth it to begin with.

Just like the asshole, just move on to the one that will mean something. The one that will cherish you instead of just want one thing from you.

This will sound fucked up but welcome to womanhood. We do get objectified and end up being nothing more than a play toy for some "player". This has happened to every woman at one time or another. But whether you believe it or not we have the upper hand. We can give them what they want or we can deny them what they want. If they are willing to work for it and wait a while then maybe just maybe they have a little chivalrous spirit in them and will treat you well. But on the first night? Then they have another notch on their gun. Being a Trap in my younger days I was not immune to this and fell for the Velvet Tounge of a Dawg and had one night stands.

You are right hon. It is a gamble. It is a game. It is all about playing and then taking your toys home with nothing more than a promising kiss. Or a flip of the hair in his face accidentally on purpose. Or the damsel in distress BS or whatever else. It is a game. It is a complicated dance and if they can't dance then forget them. You are worth way better than that.

So dust off those heels and don't sweat the assholes you are going to run into in life. It is a game of cat and mouse so be a smart mouse because we actually end up being the pussy cats plying with the mice in the end.

Yeah you are right. You are gonna' get over it and you sill still end up fine in the end. Maybe finer than most men can take. Just be the cat in the game and be really finicky.