the evolution of your trans lifestyle

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More than presentation, how do you live? What is your lifestyle like?

What's it like to live transgender?

Will go later, fun thread.

Have eyeliner on today, thigh highs under guy jeans.

I feel real.

Love you all my dears, love you all.

Mwah

[bhhfmm]

I am transgender, but I don't think I live transgender. For the most part, I live quietly and most would likely think quite boring since I'm a big homebody.

Its pretty much like I have always lived. so no real evolution here.

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Dec 11, 2014 22:59:02 GMT 8 bhhfmm said:

I am transgender, but I don't think I live transgender. For the most part, I live quietly and most would likely think quite boring since I'm a big homebody.

Its pretty much like I have always lived. so no real evolution here.

I'm just a regular real person and something of a home body too, nothing exceptional here either really!

[Ayla]

SJ

Good question. Now that I understand, accept and am starting to seek to express my identity my thoughts, feelings and perspectives have changed. I don't just gravitate to and try to meld into the male groups. I now find their conversations sometimes tedious. I enjoy and seek out female friends.  I like their conversation, discussing feelings and behaviour. I like seeking to understand, know and to support others. I love more easily. I am less guarded. I don't feel as concerned as to how others think of me. I dont try to hide. I am more open and engaged. Small things now assume greater significance.

Small changes in appearance or grooming that make me more andro or introduce a sifferent gender cue assume symbolic importance far greater than they should. Longer hair, no facial hair, tinted toner etc..

On the other hand being trans and starting to declare myself as and to live as trans has shown me that self authorship is possible. That I can change. That I can choose a better life with more meaning and greater authenticity. Do others see this?  I think they do and it sometimes puzzles them. I am lighter, happier and I am told,  much nicer.

I am trans, my life is great and it continues to get better and better.

Safe travels

Aisla

[Edge]

"Lifestyle?" It's not a "lifestyle."
I have a university student lifestyle, a metalhead lifestyle, a me lifestyle.
What I don't have is a biological condition lifestyle.
While I'm at it, neither do I have sexual orientation lifestyle.

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It's changing, it's turning New... I need time to post, don't have it

I used to race, to act, sing in a bar, swim, live richly though poor

It's time to get my life back and more, to be it all, trans, wild and free, to break lose, to be real.

To win my race, fly high, drive a five hundred hp car to work.every day, sing in the bar, express the gq fashion, let sj.s voice be live, back down from nobody and be me.

And by killing stealth, help us all, we suffer because the cis make us hide, it's time for me to come out, and once again be a star, but this time, the stage is everywhere, and the character's name is truth.

Love to all here.

Nails out hair down eyes painted heart wide open, living a dream.

Satinjoy aka trinity

[Laura J]

Dec 12, 2014 5:50:58 GMT 8 Edge said:

"Lifestyle?" It's not a "lifestyle."
I have a university student lifestyle, a metalhead lifestyle, a me lifestyle.
What I don't have is a biological condition lifestyle.
While I'm at it, neither do I have sexual orientation lifestyle.

My thoughts also... Just replace "Metalhead" with "Fashion", and thats me pretty much.. Thanks Edge.!! 

I know I'm evolving, changing, opening up more gender-wise, and especially my CIS friends notice it, 
but I don't feel it's a lifestyle, in fact thats what I personally want to get away from as much as possible now, 
peoples preconcieved notions about how a trans person is supposed to be, act, behave, etc.. 

I think setting a positive example to others, and being the best "real Me" as I can, as I continue to grow, 
is the best lifestyle of all.. <3

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Dec 13, 2014 10:30:23 GMT 8 Laura J said:

Dec 12, 2014 5:50:58 GMT 8 Edge said:

"Lifestyle?" It's not a "lifestyle."
I have a university student lifestyle, a metalhead lifestyle, a me lifestyle.
What I don't have is a biological condition lifestyle.
While I'm at it, neither do I have sexual orientation lifestyle.

My thoughts also... Just replace "Metalhead" with "Fashion", and thats me pretty much.. Thanks Edge.!! 

I know I'm evolving, changing, opening up more gender-wise, and especially my CIS friends notice it, 
but I don't feel it's a lifestyle, in fact thats what I personally want to get away from as much as possible now, 
peoples preconcieved notions about how a trans person is supposed to be, act, behave, etc.. 

I think setting a positive example to others, and being the best "real Me" as I can, as I continue to grow, 
is the best lifestyle of all.. <3

Interesting reactions, unexpected.

First, what is your perception of the meaning off...lifestyle...

Being trans altered everything about me, and I started at 55. I do different things, some not, I act different, I have different friends, do phones different. Nearly everything changed, yet some did not. But lifestyle?

It's more fundamental than surface, but it for me is a transgender lifestyle, a new way of living and exploring life.

Curious as to the strong reactions. What's up?

Trinity

[Edge]

Calling being LGBT a "lifestyle" has been a tool of homophobes and transphobes for the past several years. It both others us and infers that it's a choice.

[Laura J]

"A lifestyle typically reflects an individual's attitudes, values or world view. Therefore, a lifestyle is a means of forging a sense of self and to create cultural symbols that resonate with personal identity. Not all aspects of a lifestyle are voluntary. Surrounding social and technical systems can constrain the lifestyle choices available to the individual and the symbols she/he is able to project to others and the self." 
Thats what Wiki says it is.?

I still don't think being NB trans is my lifestyle, anymore than being blonde & white, or Christian is my lifestyle, but all are part of it together. Being trans is just my core gender identity. My core being dictates all that I am. all I do, the things I like, dislike, my favorite colors, music, who I am attracted to, all of those things are in my core being.. 

But my lifestyle.? I don't see myself that way.? 

I don't even know what my lifestyle would be.? 

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Dec 13, 2014 12:11:08 GMT 8 Laura J said:

"A lifestyle typically reflects an individual's attitudes, values or world view. Therefore, a lifestyle is a means of forging a sense of self and to create cultural symbols that resonate with personal identity. Not all aspects of a lifestyle are voluntary. Surrounding social and technical systems can constrain the lifestyle choices available to the individual and the symbols she/he is able to project to others and the self." 
Thats what Wiki says it is.?

I still don't think being NB trans is my lifestyle, anymore than being blonde & white, or Christian is my lifestyle, but all are part of it together. Being trans is just my core gender identity. My core being dictates all that I am. all I do, the things I like, dislike, my favorite colors, music, who I am attracted to, all of those things are in my core being.. 

But my lifestyle.? I don't see myself that way.? 

I don't even know what my lifestyle would be.? 

Great quote.

It's a fun thing. I like asking questions, seeing answers, getting folk thinking.

Love from.the fairy....flashes a garter and stocking top at Mark....

[Deleted]

Dec 13, 2014 11:29:24 GMT 8 Edge said:

Calling being LGBT a "lifestyle" has been a tool of homophobes and transphobes for the past several years. It both others us and infers that it's a choice.

Well that sucks doesn't it. They cannot define us though.

Food for thought. Haters are distorting that, and trust me, I didn't have a choice either....

Thanks now I get it

[Deleted]

Haters do not define me. I am not a drag queens caricature of a woman with glitter and glitz, no offense to those who are.

I am a transsexual no op woman.

I am not societies loudmouth prostitute, I am caring and real.

But for me, there is a lifestyle that enhances being transfemale. Nonbinary, genderqueer transfemale.

Nobody will define it for me. It is for me to create, to support who I am.

It means out of stealth, high values, helping others, having courage, vulnerability, family here and out there. It means phones, visits, forums, hands raised in hope, for help, to give help.

It is the lifestyle of me, colored by living trans, fee, wild. Not boxed by binary..
It is mine, they shall not paint it, nor spit on it, nor call it evil, nor call it choice.

They can accept it, or if a stranger that cannot hurt my family, they can go tuck themselves.

But I would rather shame them with my own authenticity, they will question themselves, some will see truth, and turn from.hate..

I hope.

Trinity

[Edge]

Dec 13, 2014 19:43:33 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Dec 13, 2014 11:29:24 GMT 8 Edge said:

Calling being LGBT a "lifestyle" has been a tool of homophobes and transphobes for the past several years. It both others us and infers that it's a choice.

Well that sucks doesn't it. They cannot define us though.

Food for thought. Haters are distorting that, and trust me, I didn't have a choice either....

Thanks now I get it

No, they can't, but it's not what I would consider a lifestyle. For one, there are far too many trans people, all of which are different, for there to be one "trans lifestyle."
For me, being trans changed very little aside from making me happier. I don't consider it a lifestyle.

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Dec 18, 2014 23:19:30 GMT 8 Edge said:

Dec 13, 2014 19:43:33 GMT 8 Trinity said:

Well that sucks doesn't it. They cannot define us though.

Food for thought. Haters are distorting that, and trust me, I didn't have a choice either....

Thanks now I get it

No, they can't, but it's not what I would consider a lifestyle. For one, there are far too many trans people, all of which are different, for there to be one "trans lifestyle."
For me, being trans changed very little aside from making me happier. I don't consider it a lifestyle.

We are not communicating right. I think the word means something very different from you to me. Which validates both..

Not worth figuring.g it out. I may rephrase stuff. I agree there is no trans lifestyle, but the way I live did change. And that was the intent, how did it change how you live, and what you like as environment.